Day 18's lesson is trancendence. The best way to put this is to compare to that old adage of
there is no "I" in "team".
We aren't alone. We need help. We aren't meant to carry our burdens alone. The ego in us thinks we can or have to go it alone, but through trancendance we step out of the separateness of ego thinking and into a place where we know we are one with the universe.
This transcendence is an ego blow to our narcissistic arrogance, but also a huge relief at the same time.
I thought I was smart enough to have the solution to everything. I wanted to lose weight, (and motivate my overweight husband) so I became a fitness professional. I wanted to eat better, and feed my young sons better, so I became a nutrition expert. I wanted to understand my self and my marriage better, so I bought courses on counselling. My tower of self help/health and wellness books would crush a child if it ever tipped over. I was intelligent and independent and knew I could figure all of this out.
Turns out, I may have been wrong.
Now I am faced with issues with my children, and my "expertise" is the last thing they want.
Indeed, I have all the skills, smarts, and tricks of the trade, if they'd just listen to me I would fix it.
But they won't listen. I have had to face the harsh realization, that although I am fully capable, I cannot fix their problems.
I need help. I need to step out of the "I" and welcome a "team" of experts into these problems. And so I have.
They're less than thrilled about missing valuable skatepark time for appointments and assessments, but I have the time and the trust that finding help outside of me, is the right thing to do, and I am committed to this.
I have already learned the value of counselling, both relationship, and on my own, and I have no problem asking the universe for help in any way to guide me through my challenges.
In moving away from the "I" that keeps us separate, and becoming part of a whole, a collective sense of purpose and worthiness is born.
We ask for help, grace, guidance and ease, and we wait for the universe to conspire on our behalf. We keep our eyes out for the right people, or ideas to find us.
And they will find us...I guarantee it.
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